How To Get Over Getting Caught In The Act
There are a few firsts that every guy remembers: His first erection, his first time seeing a naked woman, his first time wanking and then there’s the big one that no man ever forgets, even though he wishes he could. Thats his first time caught masturbating.
If this has happened to you, you’re not alone, studies have shown that over 41% of people have been caught in the act. I could get into some preventative measures like locking the door, but as we all know, bad timing happens. So if you do get caught, here are three tips to help you tackle the awkward situation i broke these down into three sections as the door opens and closes and most importantly, dealing with the life afterwards.
As the door opens. Don’t be ashamed
If someone barges into your solo session, Your eyes often closed, you’re over-exposed, and don’t get me started on the facial expressions. So what to do if you’re in the heat of the moment when you get an unexpected audience? It’s completely acceptable to be alarmed. You may jump up, scream, dive into the nearest dark hole — and that’s okay.
Once you recover from your initial reaction, don’t go into defensive mode. Getting defensive implies that you were doing something shameful, which you weren’t. You were simply exercising your inherent right to self-love. We all do it, come on my business is selling the toys to help y0u, this time you just got caught, and now it’s time to address the naked elephant in the room. But first, you should probably put on your pants.
As the door closes. Don’t make it awkward
So as you were going into self-preservation mode, your visitor excused them self and is now contemplating how to proceed. While your first instinct might be to deny, or to avoid the person like the plague, it’s better to talk it out immediately. Remember that you control the tone of the conversation, it’s not going to be odd unless you make it that way. Masturbation is natural, nothing to be embarrassed about. If you’re not embarrassed, then your intruder has no reason to be.
If they are not happy with what she witnessed, you have some talking to do… but not because you did anything wrong.
Dealing with the life afterwards. Its going to be ok
So this is it you need to make the other person comfortable with the situation, then you can laugh it off together. Even throw in a joke: “Next time, I’d love you to give me a hand.” You can also explain that you were so turned on thinking about them that you “took the matter into your own hands.”
However, if they are not as open-minded, or they don’t masturbate regularly, and don’t understand why you need to, they might feel confused or alienated. What many women don’t quite understand yet is that masturbation and sex serve entirely different purposes for most men. They are not mutually exclusive activities tread lightly here, we inherently experience masturbation and sex with our partner as separate actions fulfilling different needs.
If its your partner who caught you, reassure them that you love the sex life you share and give some specific examples about the things they do that turn you on and how sexy they look naked. they will now in the vulnerable spot and need to know that you’re not masturbating because you are unsatisfied with them. If you were caught you in the act watching porn, this might add another layer of conflict. You’ll have to explain that you don’t prefer the people in porn or any other person over being with them. The truth is, it’s about experiencing variety which is not only the spice of life but a requirement for men to live a healthy sex life.
Think of it this way
As a television watcher you had your favorite programs and planned your nights around them. Then you get Netflix, which is like television but offers content in a different way. Does that mean you call the Sky and say No TV for me thanks, I’m good. No you do not. Sometimes you want to catch a live TV show and some OnDemand action in the same night. The two may provide similar service, but they both have separate things to offer. You’re not going to cancel your solo sessions because you also have a rocking sex life.
Masturbation should not make you feel guilty whether you’re in a relationship or single. Besides, many studies have shown that people who masturbate more have more satisfying sex lives. And sometimes even more sex. So it can’t hurt to toss in this important data as well!