Mutual Masturbation, Why not just fuck?

So why masturbation? Its a normal, healthy and all-around awesome practice. And yet, it’s something that is rarely discussed between couples. Men do it, women do it, and they even do it to each other (Foreplay) but with that it doesn’t mean they’re able to openly talk about it.

Masturbation is a private show, not a spectator sport… Or is it?

According to the last Sex Study, approximately 90% of men and 74% of women have masturbated (and those are just the ones who were willing to admit it!!).

So for those of you currently in a relationship, chances are the both of you are doing at least a little self-loving on the side. And why wouldn’t you!? Masturbation has a load of benefits, from stress reduction to sleep aid to higher overall sexual confidence. Solo sex sessions also enhance your coupled sex life, helping men improve their sexual stamina and women become more orgasmic. I am not saying there is anything wrong with taking the approach to masturbation, But why not share the self-love with someone you love?

Yes I am talking about mutual masturbation.

You probably remember this practice from your pre-intercourse days. I know you’ve been polishing the sausage or rubbing the pea since well-before puberty, but let me assure you: Bringing your other half into the mix can make a regular masturbation situation exponentially hotter! And it may help reduce some of the side effects of masturbation.

Still need convincing ?

It’s a treat for the eyes

As you will know us men are visual creatures. Unlike women, who need to feel turned on in order to actually get turned on, men rely heavily on visual stimuli to get them in the mood. This is the real reason why we watch so much porn. LOVING seeing others enjoy themselves sexually, from every single angle. Don’t believe me? Just check your browser history.

Now how about this: Instead of watching a stranger touch themselves on a cold, flat computer screen, you’re watching someone you know in real life. Moaning and stroking and close enough to touch – in fact, touching is definitely encouraged!

It’s a total turn-on

The thing that sets masturbation and sex apart is that masturbation is generally a very private act. Your partner is giving you a front row seat to such an intimate experience and same for you and this makes it an extremely hot time. Giving you that voyeuristic and exhibitionist rush, like you are witnessing something that no other person gets to see.

There is just something awesome about seeing a woman take her pleasure into her own hands. For men, bringing your female partner to orgasm is like rebuilding a car engine. It requires dedication, finesse, and perfect technique. When a woman can put the puzzle together in half the time, it shows that she is confident, comfortable with her own sexuality and knows what she is doing under the hood, or the other way round watching your man concentrating so hard on your body using you as his personal MUSE.

You will learn something

Instead of sitting there while they hit all there hot buttons, take copious mental notes, because no one know how to pleasure your partner better than they do! As we all know, new lovers do not come with an instruction manual. Every person likes different things below the belt, and the best way to discover the RIGHT way to touch somebody is to let them show you how they like to be touched.

Take note of the way they stroke themselves and how there body responds to each new movement. Do they go fast or slow? What kind of pressure are they using? The more you pick up, the better lover you’ll be!

It’s safer to introduce the subject ahead of time.

Keep in mind that some people might feel uncomfortable at first. Let them know how sexy you think it would be, and assure them that you will take it as slow as they need. To set the mood and help her relax, try lighting some candles aromatherapy massage candles and turning on a sensual playlist. Sit facing your partner, either on a couch or the bed, and take turns playing with yourself while the other watches. If they feel uncomfortable being face-to-face, you can always sit behind each other and lean back against you while you masturbate.

Try running your hands all over there body, kissing the hot zones like the neck, nipples etc. Once you’re both feeling warmed up and comfortable, turn your solos into a duet. As you get closer and closer to the edge, hold eye contact and mimic each other’s rhythms to bring yourselves to orgasm, simultaneously! Then all that’s left to do is snuggle close and share the intimate moment together.

And that is it you are now taking part in Mutual Masturbation, I have found a mixed reaction from my partners while doing this, some really love it and others feel a bit shy, take your time make them feel wanted and learn 🙂