Men are you threatened by sex toys
I spend a lot of time looking around at blogs and handling sex toys and have never felt threatened by them, really i find them as an aid to bring more pleasure and fun into the bedroom. I do hear all the time friends both male and female saying that they just don’t feel.
In the article she replies to a letter from Frustrated, Anxious, and Randy, Really Appreciate Help “Farrah”, who says ”
I need toys and my boyfriend’s fingers to get off, and he takes it personally. He has said that he feels like he isn’t good enough for me. I own a little collection of vibrators and dildos that he doesn’t like in bed with us. He hates that some of them are larger than him. When he fingers me, he sees it as just foreplay – he warms me up, but then tries to finish the job with his cock. The problem is that he doesn’t.
He has never been able to make me orgasm from sex, usually because he can’t last long enough. I love my boyfriend and want to be with him, but I also want to be satisfied in bed. What can I do?”
Mistress Maxxters points out there are a lot of things going on here. “The first thing that pops out to me is that, to me, it seems like your boyfriend needs to deal with some of his personal issues. The fact that he isn’t comfortable using sex toys with you shows he is probably insecure about his own body or ability to please you. His reaction to toys that are larger than him demonstrates how worried he is about his penis size and what you think about it.”
“You should sit down in a non-sexual environment and talk to him about all this. Be sure to be reassuring – mention how much you love his body (and his Penis!), and how great he makes you feel when you’re being sexual together. Then, try to explore why he feels that his penis should do the work instead of his hands, mouth, or toys. You need to learn about his specific insecurities in order to help him overcome them.”