Sexual Fantasies That Are Totally Normal
Well, you are reading this so I don’t need to tell you that in today’s world we are increasingly encouraged to discuss our sexual fantasies out in the open “I love talking about them” you know why? it’s because good sex matters. The societies taboos are eroding, sexual norms are shifting away, and we are now shouting out loud about what turns us on.
Remember that your private thoughts don’t define you, it’s okay to have sexual fantasies that conflict with who you believe yourself to be in real life. Your fantasy life is just that your fantasy life unless you choose to make it into more, think about all the blogs we have written on sub and Dom. Thanks to recent studies, and research, I have picked the best ones and thought id give you some advice on how to bring them to life.
Dominating Someone
Well with this being here I had to cover off the main two first, Fantasies of being in control in the bedroom are super fun and quite common, with 47% of women have had this fantasy. Think about how hot it can be to call the shots during sex! Especially in a world that strips women of power both in and out of the bedroom.
Being Dominated
So the shit movie Fifty Shades of Grey actually did some good in normalising this fantasy more widely than ever before. Fuck! One study found 65% of women crave being dominated. There’s a wide range of fantasy scenarios to draw from here.
Pegging
If you got this far missionary isn’t doing it for you, but you might not have tried pegging, pegging is a big turn-on. For those who aren’t familiar, pegging is where a partner without a cock has anal sex with a partner using a strap-on, for those who are game it can be a surefire way to flip the script on vanilla sex. It’s not for everyone, but if you’re intrigued, talk to your S.O. to see if they are down with this type of get-down. (the blog linked above will help the Alpha men)
Role-Play
If you struggle to let your inner sex kitten loose, sometimes imagining yourself in a specific role can help. It’s kind of along the same lines as getting it on with your hot professor: Does a nurse-and-patient fantasy get your gears turning? How about a boss and secretary? Babysitter sex? The possibilities are almost endless. (let us know your fav below)
Family / Daddy issues
So one of the great things about fantasies is that they don’t have to mesh with your real-life ethics and beliefs you can really be as perverted as you want to be inside your own head. “Daddy” has become a popular kink in recent years, and step-sister (Game of Thrones we have to thank you for that) and the all faithful step-mom porn tends to top the charts on those sites, suggesting that taboo dynamics have wide appeal.
Sensory Deprivation
Blindfolds, ties, pillow over the eyes are an easy way to explore this fantasy. Wearing one keeps you blissfully unaware of what your partner is about to do to you helping you maintain your control and mystique. Add some noise-canceling headphones and the fun will help you keep them on their toes.
Exhibitionism
Well, you have seen enough of me naked I love being naked showing off can be incredibly sexy, especially if the person watching you is as excited about your body. Fantasize about stripping for a partner, performing in a porn flick, or masturbating for an audience.
Voyeurism
Last but not least, on the flip side, watching other people get it on can be a massive turn-on as well. Maybe you imagine peeking at a couple getting intimate in a fitting room at the mall, sitting in as an anonymous tipper in an online cam show, or watching a boundary-pushing BDSM scene at a dungeon. There are many possibilities for consenting spectating.