Want to last longer in bed?
Has the following scenario ever happened to you: It was a romantic night with your girl. After sharing a bottle of wine, you decided to go straight to your pad for a night of fun and relaxation. Everything else was perfect and you wanted made sure it will stay that way.
Except that you didn’t last as long than expected, which ruined the entire night for your lady. That’s fine – it happens to every guy once in a while. But, if this has been happening on a regular basis, you’ve got a problem. Ok there are primarily two methods if you want to last longer in bed these are physical and psychological treatments. While physical remedies target the sensations you feel during sex, psychological solutions address your worry, stress, or other mental factors that may explain your quick trigger.
Just remember that duration isn’t the most important part of the formula for having great sex.
So in this post we are break down a few of the most helpful techniques for dealing with premature ejaculation (PE), but be warned its recommended to try these out on your own before attempting them during sex.
Biofeedback is a great way to last longer in bed
In general terms, this refers to the idea that you can regulate your own neurophysiology—or the way your body responds to physical sensations. While there are a lot of different types of biofeedback, one of the most common for lasting longer in bed is to bring yourself right to the edge of orgasm before stopping all sexual or masturbatory activity until you have your excitement under control.
This is also known as “edging” practicing this technique can help you teach your brain and body to better control your orgasm response. Just be sure to use a lot of lotion or lube, while you practice edging to avoid chaffing yourself, she advises.
The Squeeze
If you can feel your orgasm coming on, stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis. Apply firm pressure with your thumb and forefinger and focus the pressure on the urethra—the tube running along the underside of the penis. The squeeze technique can help you last longer in bed by pushing blood out of the penis and momentarily decreasing sexual tension, which 
represses the ejaculatory response.
Ladies First
When you help her finish first—whether with your mouth, your fingers, or a toy—knowing she’s enjoyed an orgasm may relieve some of the pressure you’re feeling to last longer in bed
De-Sensitisers
Like the stuff dentists slather on your gums before jamming in the needle, there are topical sprays called “local aesthetics” that you can apply to your penis to lessen the sensation and keep control. When this stuff is used properly, you can adjust the amount of desensitisation with these sprays, and it won’t transfer to your partner.
But be warned: The lack of sensation could make it difficult for you to stay erect, he says.
Condom Control
Most major condom manufacturers make extra-thick rubbers that act like a slip-on desensitiser for your member, Morse says, and these can help you last longer in bed. Look for marketing lingo like “extended pleasure” (from Trojan) or “performax” (Durex), which are fancy terms for this thicker style of condom.
There are some Pills
Plenty of men pop a pill to become erect. And in Europe, there are also legal drugs that can help you last longer in bed. The problem: The Food and Drug Administration (FDA) hasn’t approved those drugs, even though trials show these drugs genuinely benefitted men with premature ejaculation, the FDA sets a very high bar for drugs used to treat non-life threatening conditions.
While you could take these drugs for off-label uses like the treatment of PE, most of these meds are antidepressants that could lead to mood changes or other side effects—meaning they shouldn’t be used unless your performance problem is seriously affecting your life. Talk to your doctor to discuss this option.
If the above hasn’t helped ask an Expert
If you feel like you’ve tried everything to have better sex without success, it may be time to discuss your problem with a sexual dysfunction specialist.
“A lot of the treatments we’ve already discussed—edging and biofeedback—are pretty challenging techniques that a specialist can help you use effectively.”
Ask your doctor for a referral to a urologist, who can either treat you himself or refer you to the right person for your problem. He or she will help you approach this practically and pragmatically, “It’s not about getting in touch with your inner self. It’s about learning the physical or mental mechanisms that can help you avoid premature ejaculation.”
