The World’s Best Love Potion Power Exchange
I think that most of us will agree that power exchange is sexually exciting. Tops and bottoms alike are turned on by the dance of domination and surrender. Study after study reveals that vanilla people have fantasies that include bondage, spanking, and other forms of BDSM. Don’t believe that? Who bought all those copies of Fifty Shades of Grey? BDSM is catnip to almost everyone. The vast majority of people won’t act on this excitement. They are content to read fiction, watch films, and dream in rich colours. Actually doing it is too scary.
Those of us who are lucky enough to include D/S in our daily lives sometimes forget what a giant leap getting started can be. To this day I get hard when the rope comes out. My early play parties were a bit embarrassing when my pants started bulging as I tied my victim down. That visible sign of my anticipation has long since stopped, but my breath still catches when I see that tender bare ass presented for my pleasure. I know that my arousal is reciprocated in full.
There’s been a lot of debate on the relationship between sex and domination. I think much of it is due to the desire to discount the very primal nature of what we do. Is being dominant wired to our sexual arousal? Yes. Is surrender and exposure also wired to turn us on? Yup. Is simply being exposed to other people practising power exchange arousing? Oh yeah! Are we also saying that the degree of dominance or submission affects how aroused we get? Yes, that too.
Are we also saying that a lack of power dynamic isn’t arousing? Well, if we are saying that participating in a power exchange or just observing one turn us on, aren’t we also saying that a power balance is less exciting? I am saying that is true. But that can’t be correct, right? How do I explain that 95% of the world has great sex with absolutely no thought of power exchange? Clearly survival of the species can’t be totally dependent on BDSM.
There are entire fields of study that consider the myriad ways humans mate. We’re complex critters. In all
seriousness I am not suggesting that without a little bondage or other action, sex wouldn’t happen. My point is a bit more subtle. Domination and submission is the most reliable aphrodisiac ever discovered. Think about it. A trashy novel that includes some BDSM got the entire world titillated about bondage and nipple clamps. Sex sells. That’s what advertisers say. Well, BDSM sex sells even better. Like most magic, our aphrodisiac can’t just be sprinkled around to get someone to be yours. However, used sparingly at first, and always accompanied with a large love chaser, you have the world’s best love potion.