Being sir…..
Over the years I’ve experimented with some light spanking and tying up but never really progressed beyond that.
More recently I’ve started to grow more confident in the role of ‘Dom’ and to develop my persona as ‘SIR’.
The thing I’ve found and what has helped me to move forward and enjoy it more is to understand that each sub is different. I’m certainly not one for a full 24/7 sub/Dom relationship but prefer a more scene approach. A scene is where you enact a scenario outside of your normal or vanilla relationship.
Sometimes this can be a few minutes during sex or much longer depending on the mood. I’ve discovered that being versatile and open to being dominated myself has helped me understand the responses of the sub.
The key is trust and understanding whilst it appears you are being disrespectful and degrading, the sub is putting their ultimate trust in you and you are responsible for the line between pleasure related pain and actual distress and discomfort. It’s a good idea to talk about what might be acceptable before hand maybe through flirtatious text if you’re too embarrassed to discuss it outright. You can build your persona and agree rules and of course the obligatory safe word in this way too!
The sensation of providing pleasure via control is an interesting one. This is a fledgling article as my sir persona is just starting to grow, so far restraint, zero tolerance to misbehaviour and orgasm control and denial of orgasm are sirs growing areas of expertise. I’ll post further experiences as they happen and next time write about my mixed experiences as a submissive….
